Life is about the good or bad choices we make each day! Weather we decide to get out of the bed in the morning or look both ways before we cross the street!The choice of who we pick for friends.

The day Troy was born and the choices I made to keep my baby the was child that needed me more. Troy was a breast feed baby and I decided that before I know the he was special needs, which was a shock to me at the time as I was only 22 years old at the time. That was the past and now today in Sept of this year Troy will be having his thirty birthday and I and one of Troy's friend , the lady who care for Troy every second weekend to give me a brake.

When I knew something was wrong but wasn't sure what it was I asked for some  help or I wouldn't  if I hadn't begged for it .Like Nancy Drew we have to investigate and have that kind of a mind to look to figure out what I was dealing with. I didn't know alot about special needs person what Troy was little, so I didn't know if it was a behavior problem or his special needs. When I was confuse to what was going on I tried to get him into the Mental Health and was turn down, they look at me funny as if special need wouldn't need the same service as everyone else, I felt as if Troy was from another culture or country and I was hurt by this.We were turn down!

Sometime in 1986 or 1987 a Social worker came to my home, She was very nice and pertty and I like her very much, I won't say name to protect her and her family.At that time Troy was going to the YMCA ,Mad Day Camp, so it was inthe summer.The Social worker said my son dirty inthe pool and that was a sign of sexual abuse and as I can remember that was the start of the whole story of Troy being sexually abuse and we won't say by who because I don't want his case to be hurt when this goes to court but I do want to educated the public as I didn't know anything and the I was told about what was happen to Troy I was in shock and it the kind of shock you get when ,your in a car crash . If you read the First Aid book ,please read on shock!

When A mother is told this kind of thing she feel that she has make two bad choices the day she met that person when she was still 13 years old the summer of turning 14 teen. I would like to tell your how that make me feel but put yourself in my shoes and my past of bad experences as a young girl who was easy target for the wrong men who was loking foe a father and attention and love that she wasn't getting at home. That is what is wrong today girl aren't sometime not getting love at home and they never learn to love themself first.

I Think alot of kids are looking for the love of father.I also think they need to do more for these parents to help them deal with these issues and it should be treated differently and they need to give people the skills to deal with life issues.You could say they need some First Aid for this problem because it will never go away unless they change the beast or negative behavior.They need to help people to stop denial of their problems.It would help save alot of pain and years of the same thing happening, court and they may save some of the kids.They have marriage counseling and I think they Life and denial counseling and it should be a course and the parents should be make to take it.This would help to protect the kids and give the skills parents need. Most want to be the best parent they can .I would like a blog so to save people alot of pain and the children too.

I have learned life is about choices we make each day and some people come from homes where they never learn to think for themself or to exercise their brain. They are from home where they are told how to think and controled by their 70 year old mother.They are 40 old kids being told what to do and control with money. If I Could have took another road and one less painful, I would have love to have taken it.Troy is doing so much better since the visit have stop and he has grown up alot and he helps me now alot.

Troy is love by alot of people and alot of them don't know him but he is loving and friendly, good looking man. I am going to say good night as Troy's little brother wants the computer and he is the boss over me most of the time , he be 13 in Jan 7/2008. Plays the volin 3 days a week and hockey in the winter. Shawn is in all French class and smart kid. Good night and I will be in touch.

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