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What is a Bully?
By Dot Gove
What is a bully?
A bully is someone who takes another’s worth away from
any living creature great or small. A bully is someone who usually
has his own healing path to face and his own demons to fight and
battle. Yet most bullies find this hard to even contemplate as
this would mean they would have to step out of one mind level
and see things in a more global perspective. This is why the bully
is part of a unique group of mind set the opinionated one. They
think that they are of the higher level of this one while their
victims are either of another level or of the lower opinionated
mind level. A bully is anyone that makes you feel like you are
less then you. The bully usually has lost control in one area
of his or her development and/or has to have control over everything
in his or her live and/or also has very little worth for himself
or herself.
To take another’s worth means that you may have one or
more of the following characteristics being shown to others and/or
are within others that you see or are within yourself.
a) for control over a living creature to do
what they believe is right
b) little understanding of yourself so that you
can understand others
c) have no other way to voice your objections
and hurts
d) you have been a victim and thought better
to become one then be a victim again
e) fear of losing your job, fears of many things
can lead from this
f) lack of self respect, self love self-respect
thus they don’t take any responsibilities
g) the inability to agree to disagree, lack of
ability to let go
h) lack of knowledge of tolerance
I) for profit and greed
j) for fame and notoriety
k) for political control
L) lack of letting another be able to heal another
this usually comes from lack of knowledge of what we humans are.
M) been in an environment while growing up that
was abusive
N) no learning of how to deal with anger, hurt
and hate
O) they may feel connection with exclusive groups
that have hate as a main thing in common
P) they perceive that they have to have a certain
look certain things to have control and power...ie always buying
the new stuff.
Q) quickly when forced in a corner they are the
ones to force anothers hand
R) bullies desire attention and can’t stand
anyone who might out shine them
S) someone who can not be wrong no matter what--
an opinonated ego
T) you have very little empathic ability and
have trouble expressing your emotions
U) any one who doesn’t understand the word
No or the phrase That is wrong
V) there are bullies who feel that their voice
their trauma have not been heard or addressed by society
W) they don’t think why me but put all
the healing of themself on others
Y) they don’t seek healing at anytime nor
do they believe they need healing
Z ). zealots of groups of people resorting to
terrorism for terrorists are only bullies with guns and the power
of secrecy.
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[ Bullying Articles ]
Bullying can be stopped before it starts if we
( I mean all of mankind and femalekind) just need to know the
signs of someone and the timing of a bully. The world can be healed
from this we just need to learn to begin the healing process and
it should begin right now by learning and understanding. There
is no more reports needed no more standing by and watching and
saying Glad its not me. If your not part of the solution on this
your part of the problem. If you want to stop bullies and terrorism
then you have to start with the bases of terrorism the bully within
and without.
We must know this all of us have been bullied
to some degree if we are to be honest with ourselves. We also
have been bullies to some degree to others in our lives with or
without knowing it. Sometimes we turn into bullies when we are
being bullied to take back what we have lost. Yet to continue
to bully means that you have now closed off your mind levels and
have begun to be stuck in the perphepal rut. This leads usually
to an closed mind and closed to spirit. For your mind to remain
open you must be open to all levels of thought and feelings. To
heal one must understand what it means to take another’s
worth away is to take a part of their confidence, believe, self
love, self understanding, their life. It can lead to depression(suicide
loss of productivity), anxiety(strokes and heart disease), stress(cancer,blood
pressure, mental disfunction), over indulgence in all things(over
eating, alchocial drug abuse, hyprocandrea). An all it does for
the bully is to bring needless pain on oneself and to have some
people wish only the worst. It is often said what goes around
from a person comes back to bite them. This is very true of bullying.
Sometimes we are our own worst bullies, yet this is another subject
we will talk about later. Lets first start off with How can your
spot a bully.
Dot Gove: has written children, self help and
spiritual books inclduing Understanding Changes 101; She is a
poet who also runs a mailing list on positive thinking
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